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Comment by Stephanie Spencer on April 30, 2012 at 9:44pm

Yeah :/ I know how you feel just try to approach it in the best way possible the last thing you want to do is cause tension right before your big day..... It's a hard transition for the moms I think we can all agree but if you are really uncomfortable or worried your best bet would be to talk to him first and calmly let him know how youre feeling. That way you can work things out together like you said :)

Comment by Kayla Wilson Erwin on April 30, 2012 at 8:31pm

I've been tempted to ask her what she was going to do once he moves out, because he does EVERYTHING for her mowes the yard, feeds and takes the dogs out, he would kiss her feet if she asked him too Like it's THAT bad. I'm just hoping and praying that she'll realize that he's leaving and not going to be her "little" boy anymore that he's going to have his own responsibilities to take care of and can't come running to her EVERY single time she needs it. I also kind of feel like she takes advantage of him, and that she's trying to get him to play the role as her husband since her husband is obese and not capable doing anything really.

Comment by Stephanie Spencer on April 30, 2012 at 8:23pm

Definitely know how you feel! My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years and his mom is having a hard time letting go as well. Like you said I have no problem with him being close with his mom I'll encouarge it because family is everything. But also like you said, it's treating them like they are still in your house and like they are not grown men. Right now my situation isn't too bad so I'm letting it ride itself out and see if it gets better. But I would definitely talk to him and just let him know how you feel about the situation, and say you just want to be able to start your own life together just the two of you, not you him and his mom. Good luck girl!

Comment by Kayla on April 30, 2012 at 7:59pm

Going through the same thing! Just don't put it off because it will blow up as it just did for me. Let him know how you feel. If you are getting married he should start standing up for himself in these situations. Totally understand that you want your own life together and not the daily phone calls making sure everything is ok! Stick to your guns.

Comment by Gris on April 30, 2012 at 7:20pm

She's just being protective, just try to talk to your Fiance, let him know how you feel.

Comment by Kayla Wilson Erwin on April 30, 2012 at 6:21pm

Gris- no, he is the 2nd but he is also adopted.

Comment by Gris on April 30, 2012 at 6:19pm

I think you should tell him something, or both of y'all can sit together with her, let her know that you are not taking him away, he is still going to call and visit. Is your Fiance her first born?

Comment by Kayla Wilson Erwin on April 30, 2012 at 6:19pm

I don't have a problem with him being close to his mom at all. There is a little more than just the simple things. He's 21 years old and she still asks him if he has money, when he's going to be home, if he has eaten... I guess I just find it annoying because I my parents don't call me and ask me questions like that because they know I can take care of myself. I'm just ready to be officially with him and be independent.

Comment by Kaitlin Klee on April 30, 2012 at 6:14pm

Is it going to be more an issue with his mom not letting go, or with him not letting go?

Regardless, I think you should talk to him about it. I don't see any reason why he can't be close to his mom, but I understand where you're coming from.