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Comment by Kari Nicole Sondej on April 19, 2012 at 7:23am

Thank you! I think it will all be ok, i don't really want to bring it up to him because i think he is really stressed out about financial issues on top of missing his family. We aren't married so it makes things a little more stressful on my end sometimes too... But we have been talking this morning a little bit and he just said he's been stressed about some money issues... so hopefully things will get straightened out soon and he will be a little more open with me and not so distant :) thanks again for the advice it really helps to know other people are there for u and can relate to you!!!

Comment by Kate Flickinger on April 18, 2012 at 8:11pm

So sorry you're feeling so down.  I would just let him know exactly how you are feeling.  Obviously I don't know you or your husband, but if he's like most guys he may not have a clue that you are feeling that way.  He may really want to fix it if he knows exactly how you are feeling.  Hope things get better for you and I hope this deployment starts to speed up for you.  My husband is deployed right now too and I am a stay at home mom of a 17 month old, so I can relate!  Make sure you get the help you need if you are feeling depressed too!!! 

Comment by Jennifer N on April 18, 2012 at 7:55pm

sorry to hear you're both having a rough time lately.  what helped me when my hubby deployed was trying to stay busy and set mini goals to look forward to.  it's normal for your soldier to pull away some (and it's normal for you to do it too!) and is likely just a phase.  he may be "putting on a happy face" for the friends you mentioned, trying to act as normal as he can.  if you can, talk to him about what bothers you.  www.militaryonesource.com offers counseling if you feel you need to talk to someone about what you are going thru.  they can refer you to someone local to you, or set up an online or phone session.  often at little or no cost to you!  hope things start looking up soon! 

Comment by Kari Nicole Sondej on April 18, 2012 at 7:19pm

thanks for understanding! we have a long ways left a little over 70% still left!!! But our son helps me get through the rough days for sure! I don't really feel medication is the answer either but I have never felt this depressed before so I don't know just want to feel normal again i guess! lol

Comment by Allee Campbell on April 18, 2012 at 7:16pm

I was were you were tho. I had no motivation to do anything. I don't know if medication is the thing. Maybe tho but go to a doctor. I just think it is about forcing yourself to keep going the best you can. It's so hard tho but just have to keep going. It will be over soon.

Comment by Kari Nicole Sondej on April 18, 2012 at 7:13pm

Your right time will pass! Just wish it would go a little faster ;)

Comment by Allee Campbell on April 18, 2012 at 7:13pm

I am right where you are! I feel like I hit a wall and the wall is time!! We just have to
Keep going. Time will pass no matter what.