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I find it easier to vent like I'm talking to the person I'm complaining about... it works better for me.
You all really need to quit coming to me with relationship problems. I honestly have no idea about relationships. I'm in my first one and it has only been going on for 9 months. I'm not an expert. Want to know how I manage to give decent advice despite all this? I, unlike you apparently, have two brain cells to rub together.
Just for kicks and giggles, lets do the math on my relationship. How long have I actually spent with my boyfriend?
June 29th, he asked me to be his girlfriend. September 5th, I dropped him off at the recruiter office so he could go to BCT. So that's 2 months and a week. 2 days for BCT family day and graduation. 2 weeks in December for Christmas, and these 2 weeks we're closing up right now that he got after AIT before his duty station.
So, even though we have been with each other for a little over 9 months, we have only been physically together for about 3 months, 1 week and 2 days. If we can make it work with that and without outside help, I'm sure you can figure your own crap out.
Also, all relationships are two way streets. Including friendships. It's a beautiful machine of give and take. Done properly, you have a real treasure.
When you come to me with your problems, however unimportant I may think they are, I do my best to make sure I keep my problems out of it. You're hurting and I want to help. My life story doesn't matter. I'm fine with that.
So when I come to you with a problem, I REALLY don't care to hear about what you're going through.
One last thing, quit comparing my life to yours. Me not seeing my boyfriend for months at a time is nothing like that one summer your boyfriend was out of town for a week or two. Try not knowing when you'll see them again. Example: My boyfriend leaves Thursday morning for his duty station all the way in Hawaii (that's a 6 hour time difference BTW) and the only thing I have a rough date for is a possible deployment. Wanna trade?
In conclusion, leave me alone. You're obviously incapable of being a friend. I'm off to spend my time with people who are.