I am 18 and my boyfriend has recently joined the Army. He is in BCT at the moment. When he gets done with BCT and AIT, I wanted to see if he wanted to get married that way we could live together. We plan on living on base. My question is will they…Continue
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Unfortunately, the uncertainty is always going to be around :( I'm a planner too and this is one of the hardest parts for me. Even the little bits of uncertainty (like not knowing what time drill is over) drive…"
"I can't speak for all guard units, but my (his) experience for deployment has been that they go where they are needed. His unit is Armor, but when they went to Iraq in 04 they were split among several different bases and assigned to work…"
"Hi Alexis! I've been a NG wife for a while now, so if you have questions, send me a message! Trying to learn everything gets overwhelming, so take it slow and only worry about it as it comes up. My hubby is Armor, so I"m…"
My name is Alexis. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three years. He just joined the National Guard and he leaves for BCT on May 14 so I am new to all of this.
When he leaves for BCT he will miss our 3 year anniversary which isn't a big deal compared to how long some of you ladies have been with your man. He will also miss my 22 birthday which you wouldn't think would be that big of a deal either, but I always made sure that I celebrated it with him because he knew how to make them special.
I am still learning about all of this and catching onto the military jargon but one thing I have already learned is the bonds between Military SOs are so strong and I hope to one day be accepted into this family.
I love my boyfriend so terribly much and even though we have been through a long distance relationship before, I don't know how I will be able to handle only talking to him through letters and maybe the occasional phone calls.
One thing I am looking forward to is when he comes back from BCT we will be able to start planning a little bit more for our future we hope to have together. The process will take awhile because we like taking things slow. I mean, for God's sake, we waited two years before we said, "I love you."
Every moment is worth it <3
Here is our story!
The second semester of my senior year was awful. So when I graduated that summer, it was no surprise to me that I was lonely and depressed. My sister called me one day while I was puppy sitting for a friend and she drug me along with her to hang out with one of her guy friends and his friends. I was super shy and I had never had a boyfriend before. I really didn't know what to do. I'm holding onto this puppy for dear life, like, it was literally a life saver. I get out of the car, and there he was. He was lounging in the back of a truck, looking sexy as anything. He was so funny and charming, I couldn't help but develop a crush on him. He even called me out about how much I laughed at everything he said. Well, he was really funny! I couldn't help but laugh!
He contacted my sister every time he wanted to hang out with the "group" as we had called it. One day, my sister said she couldn't hang out so she gave my number to him. He got it the easy way. Shortly after, he started texting and we continued hanging out as a group. The numbers of the group started dwindling until it was myself and Forrest.
Forrest's and my text message conversations started growing longer and our phone calls would stretch on for hours. For the first time, I was completely at ease with a guy.
He asked me out on July 2, 2009. Well actually, at first it was more of a, "You know you are going on a date with me, right?" And then he finally he officially asked me out cause I thought that was so much cuter.
We both agreed that we weren't going to say "I love you" right off the bat because we had seen those couples say the "L" word and then break up a week later. We weren't going to be that statistic. Where so many couples said "I love you" because they were in love with idea of being with some one, we wanted to make sure we loved each other for who we were. We were finally able to say it on July 12, 2011. By that time, we knew it was true and not based on an idea of being with another person.
When he gets back from BCT, we will start planning a little bit more about where our relationship will go. If everything continues on this track, we could be married within 5-10 years. We want to make sure we both have stable jobs and a place to live before we make such a big move. We will be prepared to handle being man and wife when the time comes.
Yes, I am impatient and I would love to marry him right now but I understand that being married is such a huge responsibility and something that isn't meant to be taken lightly. He and I can wait and we will wait. He is worth the wait. He is worth everything. He is my life. I can wait. <3
Unfortunately, the uncertainty is always going to be around :( I'm a planner too and this is one of the hardest parts for me. Even the little bits of uncertainty (like not knowing what time drill is over) drive me nuts some days.
Drills can definately be boring (a very typical comment from the guys). From the couple I've been around, there seems to be a lot of hurry up and wait. the drills with a lot of admin or classroom time seem to be the worst. when they get a chance to shoot stuff or blow things up, the guys come home much happier. Encourage him to talk to the higher ranking guys in his unit before joining ROTC. He'll want to make sure that what he's looking to be different actually will be by becoming an officer. Recruiters can sometimes spin the story to be more what you're looking to hear (not all, but some of them) so make sure he's talked to people actually in the jobs he's looking at to get the real story. (the SGTs and LT's in his unit)
I can't speak for all guard units, but my (his) experience for deployment has been that they go where they are needed. His unit is Armor, but when they went to Iraq in 04 they were split among several different bases and assigned to work with various active duty units. Some were working as MP's others as Infantry. For the Afghanistan trip in 08 they were infantry and split among about 6 or 7 of the FOB's. Details for the upcoming deployment have not been released. Originally they were supposed to go to Kuwait, possibly even on tanks, but plans changed and now they are sort of in limbo. My basic point is that you won't know much about the deployment until just before he goes. You should however get a decent amount of warning that he is going because his drills will likely become more intense and he'll begin to get extra equipment.
He was diagnosed about 10 years ago. He lost a ton of weight and got back in shape very quickly at Basic, and the doctors think that may have triggered the Diabetes.
Oh, and the other things that may pull him away from you are additional schools (although that probably won't happen till he's looking to get promoted up to around e4 or 5). and voluntary extra duties. PA generally has a couple opportunities at a time for guard to work full time at Ft. Indiantown Gap (PA's NG headquarters base) on special projects, assignments, or schools. I'm pretty sure it's something they volunteer to do (but do get paid for).
Sorry if that doesn't really answer your questions about deployment. Once he's with his unit he should be able to ask some of the more experienced guys or his Sgt what to expect.
Once he gets home from basic, you can borrow his books. I'm sure it's more info then you'll ever want to know ;) I've glanced thru Daryl's a few times, but usually I just interrupt when there's a discussion I can't follow.
Daryl depolyed once (2008) but his unit has deployed more often (2004?). PA currently has a rotation between the 3 brigades, so they go about every 3-4 years. His unit will be leaving again this fall, but because he is Diabetic he won't be joining them. Once Forrest is drilling with his unit, you'll get a much better idea of the deployment schedule. For now, just count on those monthly drills and 2wks of AT (annual training) probably over the summer.
Hi Alexis! I've been a NG wife for a while now, so if you have questions, send me a message! Trying to learn everything gets overwhelming, so take it slow and only worry about it as it comes up. My hubby is Armor, so I"m not sure how much of the Artillary specific stuff I'll know, but I can give it a shot!