CAMO - Connecting All Military Others
Being away from him for so long is definitely the hardest. Other than that I would say...how plans/dates of things are never set in stone and they can ALWAYS change at last minute! But I would agree that loving a military man is by far the easiest thing I've ever done in my life.
Hardest part is distance and time. By far, that's the hardest.
There is one thing that I hate more then anything! Is when everyone tries to discourage us from getting married. I don't know how many times people advised me against it but wow. I know the divorice rate in the military is really high...I know that we will be apart for a long time...I know that many military people cheat (and spouses) I know these things but it seems like everyone thinks I don't know anything when it comes to this stuff! Grrr ...that and when people (cough cough his family) accuse me of wanting him for his money. Holy hell does that make me mad!
The uncertainty of knowing when you'll get to see each other again is def the hardest part for me
The hardest part is knowing that my husband is experiencing something that he can't share with me. There are horrors our soldiers have experienced that are simply too terrible to discuss. Since I've never been in combat I can never truly understand everything he goes through over there. I've a good imagination and read as much as I can about it (Usually, we play a game wherein I make up a situation and he tells me whether or not it's accurate) but this is something that I will never truly "know".
The uncertainties and the time. Although distance is hard and I haven't experienced that part yet everything is so uncertain to us. We know that we will move at some point but we don't really know where or when. We know he has the potential to change shifts but we don't know why or when. There are so many things that we just don't know. Right now we're waiting to find out if he gets this position at another AFB we know the chances are small but we are still hoping it works out.
Distance, DEFINITELY. And the fact that I can't plan ANYTHING, not even my own wedding, because of how little the Army will tell us.
I would say distance. It should, in my opinion, never be a special thing to see the person you love so much. You should be able to see them all the time. But in the military you dont get that. Its always, "I might be able to come home this day, but I dont want to get your hopes up."
Thats so hard for me.
Letting him go and being alone when I miss him constantly. Its really hard not to push him away to deal with my loneliness