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So I need some advice.
My boyfriend is stationed in another state and for the last six months, we've been doing the long distance thing. Recently we've noticed how difficult it is on our relationship and how emotional I've become because of it. I just got back from a week long visit and he popped the question. No, not THAT question but he asked me to live with him. He told me that in a few weeks he'll be out of the dorms and he's looking into getting a house. He told me that he would love for me to move in with him, and to say that I've been waiting for him to ask is an understatement. I was overjoyed and kept telling him 'yes!' We didn't get too much into it but we've come to some solutions. I'll move in around or after Christmas and continue my life their; both work and school.
Now, everyone that I've told so far, my Mother and best friend hasn't been very fond of the idea nor supportive. It's really upsetting me because I don't want to pick up and move being on bad terms with family and friends.
How do I get through to them I want to do this. I need to do this. I love my boyfriend to the moon and beyond and I really feel that if we stay separated for the next three years, it will put a big strain on our relationship. I'm not moving to save my relationship because it doesn't need saving and I hope it will never have to be in that position. I'm moving because I'm in love with Jacob and I want to wake up to him every day. I want to make dinner and have real date nights, not Skype Dates. I want to say, "have a good day at work!" and seal the deal with a kiss. I'm tired of driving the miles and buying the plane tickets, only to be in debt after a week of pure bliss.
If any of y'all were or are in my shoes, how are you handling all the criticism and what are telling your loved ones and friends who think you're crazy?
personally i wld tell my friends and family, its my life and this is what making me happy! i'm sorry ya'll don't agree with it, but if u love me and want me happy...you'll accept it!
maybe when they SEE you actually bout to move and such....they'll come around....b/c my family is like that "oh she won't do it, she's just blowing smoke" then when i do it, they change their attitude! :)
im in the same situation except im not moving to be with him. im in SC and hes in NY and for 6 months now we have been doing the distance. i know that if i had the chance to move in with him i would def go for it. friends and family will always be there even if they dont really like what you are doing. like you said you want to be there to wake up to him! you just need to tell your family and everyone else that its your decision and you are doing what you feel is best for you. sometimes people dont understand what us Milso's go through when we are dating our bestfriend yet we only get to see them every so often. so i say go for it and live with him :)