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Permalink Reply by Kaitlin Klee on June 22, 2012 at 9:52pm

Well, if I were in this situation I would go to live with my husband. I mean, I get that you're close to your mom. I'm the same way. But it's a lot easier to stay close and connected now than it used to be. You and your mom can have regular skype dates and still talk on the phone.

I hope this helps!

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Permalink Reply by Alyssa Hood on June 22, 2012 at 9:58pm

I'm also extremely close with my mom, but I would move with my husband. Because, when you married him, you also married the military. And you should know things like this are going to happen. Your mom will have to understand. Plus, think of the positives. When she flies out to visit, it'll be fun! And skyping will keep you guys in touch too. Remember, it's not forever.

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Permalink Reply by Megon Bradshaw on June 22, 2012 at 9:58pm

yeaah it does, cause i know im not happy this way i need a change. i  just dont know anyone?

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Permalink Reply by Ashley Mendoza on June 22, 2012 at 11:47pm

i'm in the exact same situation pretty much, except i'll be moving to germany.  Im very excited to be with my husband but it doesnt make it any easier to leave everything and everyone you know behind, especially my mom.   She is very supportive of us and wants us t be happy no matter where it is but it is definitely still very hard.  Its been just me and my mom and sister and has been that way for awhile and we are extremely close.  I would be lying if i said i wasnt nervous and apprehensive, but im also anxious and can't wait to be with my husband and make the best out of every day.  I dont know what i'm going to do without her even in the same country but i know that when i do need her, she will always be there and no distance can ever take that away.   I plan on taking trips home to visit and lots of skype and phone calls.  She raised me to be a strong, courageous and positive person and thats exactly what i'm going to be :) Its an amazing opportunity to start an adventure with your husband, the same as it is for me with mine and my best advice is to make the most of it all. New things and changes are always hard, but nothing worthwhile is ever easy.

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Permalink Reply by Ashlee Dover on June 23, 2012 at 4:04pm

I would say go with your husband. Like the other girls said, you married not only him but the military. You need to live with your husband. He deserves it. I'm so sorry that it is hard for you to leave your mom. My mom will be crying the day I get married to my sailor, not wanting me to leave. Just sit down with her and explain to her that nothing will cut y'all's communication down. You will always be connected. Tell her that y'all should start saving up for plane tickets! That's what I do with my sister and her airman husband and my fiance. You are strong! You can do! Be with the man you love. It's time for a new chapter in your life. A joint chapter! We are military SOs, and we are strong!

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Permalink Reply by Antionette Botes on July 1, 2012 at 8:33am

Hey...you got a Camo girl here. Technology is so good nowadays, create a Skype account for her and that way you both can stay in contact with each other! Its a long way from home, but it's time for a new chapter in your life. You're husband would want you with him and I know that you want the same!!! We'll probably be in NC for maybe another year and even more if my husband deploys again. Some people here can be rude as far as trying to make friends. I've invited ladies, but get stood up...then the weird thing happen the next day where someone will post something like "I don't have any friends, who wants to hang out". I usually don't say anything just because I'm just not in the mood for drama :P Well I have to cut this short, but want you to know that I'm here for you when you get here, just give a shout-out when you're heading this way. Also let me know if you guys need help as far as finding an apartment. Living of base is so nice. Girl, you stay strong, and enjoy the last bit of time with your mom...go do something together :) She'll understand that she can't hold your hand forever because your husband is doing that now...she will always have you in heart!!! I know you can do it!!

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