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Permalink Reply by Beckie Enger on March 18, 2012 at 1:14pm

my fiance left last july and we have a 3.5 yr old, he says he is going to skype us and then doesnt as well and when i do get to facebook chat with him its like two seconds and he is off yet again to do something else. i did discover that we can chat through him text messaging my cell phone through AOL. Also we have only gotten one card from him and that was valentines day. It is just how things are and it sucks because i live for the minute i get a message from him but you just have to deal with the situation best you can and he will talk to you when he can. Our daughter is really disappointed when he doesnt skype us too but they have a lot to do and a little time. hang in there.

 

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Permalink Reply by Kelly T on March 18, 2012 at 1:42pm

Hiya hun, Ive just started my first deployment so I dont think I can be much help :( as I havnt experienced these feelings yet but I am so totally and utterly in love with my man too, He called once since deplpying he sounded very quiet on the phone and I feel bad I didnt have much to say I was so happy to hear from him is all I could think about - Im expecting another call tomorrow but I spose he cant guarantee as he wont know what he is doing. It must be hard for them too, he might feel bad for not skyping but it probably isnt his fault its not a normal 9-5 day job out there!!! I hope you hear from him soon hun xxxxx

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Permalink Reply by Sara J on March 18, 2012 at 1:48pm

Thankyou! I felt really selfish and awful for feeling this way but I had to vent and find out if I was the only one, although it must be tougher for you as you have a child, thanks for making me feel better about the situation :)

Beckie Jaros said:

my fiance left last july and we have a 3.5 yr old, he says he is going to skype us and then doesnt as well and when i do get to facebook chat with him its like two seconds and he is off yet again to do something else. i did discover that we can chat through him text messaging my cell phone through AOL. Also we have only gotten one card from him and that was valentines day. It is just how things are and it sucks because i live for the minute i get a message from him but you just have to deal with the situation best you can and he will talk to you when he can. Our daughter is really disappointed when he doesnt skype us too but they have a lot to do and a little time. hang in there.

 

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Permalink Reply by Sara J on March 18, 2012 at 1:58pm

Hey Hun. Thankyou! I'm sad to say you may experience these things as the deployment goes on (i hope you don't!)but as you said it isn't a 9-5 job and they can never really guarantee what they will be doing. I felt like the worst gf for feeling that way but I just had to get it all out, you know? But even after I wrote it I felt better! I guess it really is all down to because we love them so much!! <3 lol. Thanks hun, made me feel much better I know it's not his fault. How are you holding up? Xxx

Kelly T said:

Hiya hun, Ive just started my first deployment so I dont think I can be much help :( as I havnt experienced these feelings yet but I am so totally and utterly in love with my man too, He called once since deplpying he sounded very quiet on the phone and I feel bad I didnt have much to say I was so happy to hear from him is all I could think about - Im expecting another call tomorrow but I spose he cant guarantee as he wont know what he is doing. It must be hard for them too, he might feel bad for not skyping but it probably isnt his fault its not a normal 9-5 day job out there!!! I hope you hear from him soon hun xxxxx

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Permalink Reply by Kelly T on March 18, 2012 at 3:24pm

Glad you feel abit better, it allways helps to say it or write it out loud writing it helps me, when Anthony was about to deploy I wrote a letter about 4 times before I gave it to him after that I felt I could deal with him leaving abit better and I did but yes like you said we love them soooo much it makes it harder. I dread the months to come and how Im going to feel - You never know what job your man has been asked to do he might not have time to get to a phone xxxx

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Permalink Reply by Sara J on March 18, 2012 at 3:53pm

Yeah that's so true I never give him a hard time because I know it's not his fault and he does always say how busy he is, I never want to have anything negative to say to him especially while he is there :) I just emailed him and said 'guess you got busy baby' hope you're safe and I love you' sometimes it all builds up other days when he doesn't call of course I'm disappointed but I don't always get so upset. Lol. I guess it was just one of those days! Thankyou, I feel a lot better now especially after some of the points you made :)

Barbara Abreu said:

Its not as easy to call when you have to get up early or go after working 15 hour days and walk however far to the MWR  in a sand storm....( some places are like a mile away) some Marines do it but others are so tired they go back to the rack. Comm is pretty good but unless he wakes up when everyone else is asleep he has to wait roughly an hour in a line to call or get on a computer... Your entitled to your feelings though, and it is because you love and miss him. Just dont give him to much hell ;) And dont feel selfish, you never really know how things are unless youve been through it..and this is your first deployment. I think your handling it well, at least your not yelling at him that hed rather be deployed than home with you....yeah i got a couple of gfs yelling that when I was deployed...

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Permalink Reply by Sara J on March 18, 2012 at 3:59pm

Yes it definitely helps to say or write it out! I can say though the first month I felt was the toughest after that it starts to sink in and kind of becomes routine not saying that you don't miss them as much because of we do but you have good days and bad days but this site is a definite help! And you know if you ever need to vent or talk about something you can always message me :) I'll answer any questions I can and give all the advice I can. xxx

Kelly T said:

Glad you feel abit better, it allways helps to say it or write it out loud writing it helps me, when Anthony was about to deploy I wrote a letter about 4 times before I gave it to him after that I felt I could deal with him leaving abit better and I did but yes like you said we love them soooo much it makes it harder. I dread the months to come and how Im going to feel - You never know what job your man has been asked to do he might not have time to get to a phone xxxx

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Permalink Reply by Beckie Enger on March 18, 2012 at 4:51pm

i wouldnt say anyone has it harder than the next person and i didnt mean to sound like i dont have those feelings of  "pay attention to me now!" but i am at the end of a year deployment so i have just figured it out. it hurts, it sucks, but it will end and you will get him back so just push through.   

it will be okay, just remind yourself he probly is missing you even more than you are missing him.

 

 Sara J said:

Thankyou! I felt really selfish and awful for feeling this way but I had to vent and find out if I was the only one, although it must be tougher for you as you have a child, thanks for making me feel better about the situation :)

Beckie Jaros said:

my fiance left last july and we have a 3.5 yr old, he says he is going to skype us and then doesnt as well and when i do get to facebook chat with him its like two seconds and he is off yet again to do something else. i did discover that we can chat through him text messaging my cell phone through AOL. Also we have only gotten one card from him and that was valentines day. It is just how things are and it sucks because i live for the minute i get a message from him but you just have to deal with the situation best you can and he will talk to you when he can. Our daughter is really disappointed when he doesnt skype us too but they have a lot to do and a little time. hang in there.

 

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