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Permalink Reply by Bre McDonald on April 18, 2012 at 1:37pm

I kind of know what you are talking about. alex changed a bit after basic, but after awhile he got better and now it's really good. he wasn't exactly controlling but he was different. some good some bad, but we can't control that. my advice to you is take it one day at a time. after basic they are all weird in the head i guess you could put it and have the army way in his head.  just give it a little time and wait until he settles in with whatever he is doing and i'm sure things will get better. he's not "used to" people outside of army men because he's been around them and stuff for three months so he doesn't really know any better. it'll get better in time! trust me! :) everything will work out. 

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Permalink Reply by Miaya Roshae' Lawler on April 18, 2012 at 1:46pm

Thanks soo much. I really appreciate it. And you're right. At night over the weekend he was like "Wow, I have to get use to sleeping next to you again" lol. That sounded funny to hear. But overall, he's extremely well mannered now other than the fact that he thinks is funny to tease and call me a civilian to try and get me ralled up haha smh. I think I just have to adjust. His changes are more good than they are negative, so maybe I should just "man up" or something. 

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Permalink Reply by Kayla Wilson Erwin on April 18, 2012 at 1:56pm

Andrew my fiance was like this too, but he was in the 'zone' as my dad a drill sergeant of the army also and is the same way after he goes and trains for a period of time. On family day Andrew seemed different but as we headed home and he got out of the 'zone' he then became back the same person Ioved before. My biggest fear was things wouldn't be the same once he returned home, but he kept assuring me that they would be. So to answer your question if you are being selfish is no, because it's just a temorary thing or as far from my side it is.

-Hope this helped <3

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Permalink Reply by Miaya Roshae' Lawler on April 18, 2012 at 2:12pm

It really did! Thank you Kayla. And that is the perfect way to call it. I mean, it was like he would show himself and let himself go for a sec then pull right back and keep his composure. I could tell in his eyes that he was happy to see his fam and I, but he wouldn't show it much..like i said, no smiles, just smirks. BUT I'll give him the benefit of the doubt and let him keep his game face on for now :)

Kayla Wilson said:

Andrew my fiance was like this too, but he was in the 'zone' as my dad a drill sergeant of the army also and is the same way after he goes and trains for a period of time. On family day Andrew seemed different but as we headed home and he got out of the 'zone' he then became back the same person Ioved before. My biggest fear was things wouldn't be the same once he returned home, but he kept assuring me that they would be. So to answer your question if you are being selfish is no, because it's just a temorary thing or as far from my side it is.

-Hope this helped <3

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Permalink Reply by Miaya Roshae' Lawler on April 19, 2012 at 1:19pm

At first i thought that my bf's lack of affection was because he had a lack of interest-typical woman feelings. But after a weekend together i realized that it wasnt. I think many military men cope with their constant changing circumstances by masking emotion and channeling their strength in ways that we cant begin to imagine. We just have to stand by their side and keep them strong. It helps more than we realize. 

Ashley Mullenix said:

My fiancee` is deploying next week. I really feel like he is less affectionate. I talked to other wives who hubbys are deploying next week as well, and the husbands are being less affectionate too.

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