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Permalink Reply by Victoria Cox on April 15, 2012 at 7:30pm

No, it's not wrong. It's just because you miss him. Sometimes they're just not allowed to use certain things after a certain time.

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Permalink Reply by Annette on April 15, 2012 at 7:36pm

I get this alot from my man...he has weekends off and during the week we text. He barely has time for skype and phone calls during the week which sucks...

I know how you feel...but he misses you as much or even more right now..they just cant show it as well because of their "rules". It will get better though.

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Permalink Reply by Kaitlin Klee on April 15, 2012 at 7:37pm

He's staying in a hotel tonight, so I think he went to a friend's to watch the show or something. I really hope he will at least call before he goes to bed, since I won't get to talk to him the next three nights.

Thanks Annette. I guess I'm just going to have to get used to it. It's all still new to me. I'm not used to coming second to the Army with him!

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Permalink Reply by Cheyenna Walton on April 15, 2012 at 8:01pm

i've been going through this for the past few months with my bf too, as much as it hurts me that he doesnt follow through with what he says he's going to do, but i think he does it because he misses me alot and it hurts to hear what im doing without him, and that he's so far away and that he cant be apart of the part of my life. just remember that your boyfriend misses you just as much, and that hes going through transitions.

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Permalink Reply by Katie Miller on April 15, 2012 at 8:12pm

I dont think its wrong to get mad! I would get mad! last weekend my bf had a 4 day weekend and he went off to another state with some friends and his phone went dead and he didnt charge it until the next day so i was stuck no being able to talk to him just because he didnt want to find his charger. I got mad and we had a short little fight. I know it was a stupid reason to argue but i just feel like I dont get a lot of time to tlk to him so on the weekends when he can talk he should keep his phone charged!

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Permalink Reply by Abigail Walto on April 15, 2012 at 8:19pm

The same things have been happening with me and my boyfriend, and i get so very frustrated sometimes because i'm afraid he doesn't miss me as much, etc. You have a right to feel hurt, its only normal, and i feel the same way. Its nice to know that im not the only one with the same concerns! Everyones comments are really helpful :) And i remember once, my boyfriend telling me that he tries to hid this emotions because he doesnt want to make me any more upset than i already am. Im willing to bet the same goes for everyone, trying to stay strong for us :)

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Permalink Reply by Kaitlin Klee on April 15, 2012 at 8:25pm

I just got off the phone with him. Even though he told me tv, he actually went to a movie. He's been doing that a lot lately. I think it's just to get away from everything for a couple of hours. I try not to get angry or upset with him, because I know it's not easy on him either. Sometimes it's hard to feel like I'm important to him when everything and everyone else come before me. I feel so selfish saying that though! Especially since I know he loves me and cares about me.

I'm so glad to know that I'm not the only one going through this!!

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Permalink Reply by Abigail Walto on April 15, 2012 at 8:31pm

I completely agree! Sometimes it takes my boyfriend an hour before he will reply to my texts, dont feel selfish saying that! Its normal, its hard being apart, i keep having to remind myself these things every day.  And me too, before this i seriously thought we were having a lot of issues!
Kaitlin said:

I just got off the phone with him. Even though he told me tv, he actually went to a movie. He's been doing that a lot lately. I think it's just to get away from everything for a couple of hours. I try not to get angry or upset with him, because I know it's not easy on him either. Sometimes it's hard to feel like I'm important to him when everything and everyone else come before me. I feel so selfish saying that though! Especially since I know he loves me and cares about me.

I'm so glad to know that I'm not the only one going through this!!

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Permalink Reply by Kaitlin Klee on April 15, 2012 at 8:33pm

Me too! I started to think things were changing between us, but I guess it kind of happens to everyone in this situation. I've realized that it's not us that is changing, it's just the situation.
 
Abigail Walto said:

I completely agree! Sometimes it takes my boyfriend an hour before he will reply to my texts, dont feel selfish saying that! Its normal, its hard being apart, i keep having to remind myself these things every day.  And me too, before this i seriously thought we were having a lot of issues!
Kaitlin said:

I just got off the phone with him. Even though he told me tv, he actually went to a movie. He's been doing that a lot lately. I think it's just to get away from everything for a couple of hours. I try not to get angry or upset with him, because I know it's not easy on him either. Sometimes it's hard to feel like I'm important to him when everything and everyone else come before me. I feel so selfish saying that though! Especially since I know he loves me and cares about me.

I'm so glad to know that I'm not the only one going through this!!

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Permalink Reply by Abigail Walto on April 15, 2012 at 8:36pm

Exactly :) and the best part about it all, is once you're back with him, its really like nothing has changed. Its just getting through the times where you're apart!

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Permalink Reply by Kaitlin Klee on April 15, 2012 at 8:39pm

Yeah! We were able to see each other a couple of weeks ago for a night, and it's what keeps me going. I'm counting down until I can have another night with him!

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