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Permalink Reply by Corinne Cox on February 28, 2012 at 1:51pm

I kind of know where you're coming from. I'm 20 and my soldier is 23. We've only been together since October and we are engaged and getting married in March. We don't get much support either. We've known eachother since I was a freshman and he was a senior in High School, but we never talked or hung out or anything. We just started talking at the end of August and we just fell very hard and very fast. Also, I recently found out that I'm pregnant so things have moved very fast for us. The best advice I can give you is to just stay positive. It doesn't matter what other people think. All that matters is what you and Joel think. Just keep your head up. Everyone else will eventually come around.

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Permalink Reply by Abril Adams on February 28, 2012 at 2:04pm

I got married at 19 and we had dated a short time before being married. His family is great and doesn't really how any disapproval, but my family still makes slick remarks about it showing they didn't appreciate the way we went about it. You just have to remember that it's not their marriage/engagement. Of course you want their approval and want everyone to get along but if it doesn;t happen that way then it's life. Don't let them come between yall. They will eventually either adjust to it and be supportive or they won't and you can just hope for their respect regardless. It's hard but you have to just ignore them and do what you feel right. It's your life to live

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Permalink Reply by Natasha Scheffert on February 28, 2012 at 2:12pm

I'm 19 and getting married to my marine soon, but our situation is a little different because we've practically been a part of each other's families for years now so our families support it. However when he purposed, we were still in high school and we were judged by everyone: peers, teachers, moms, etc.(both of our dads and grandparents were ALL FOR IT, weird I know). Everyone knew that we planned on getting married someday but nobody expected it to come so soon. But now that he's a marine everyone understands why we wanna get married so young and we have more support. All situations are different, and sooner or later they have to realize that you're gonna be together forever no matter what. They should come around. And if not, then at least YOU know you're doing the right thing and their opinions shouldn't matter.

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Permalink Reply by Stephanie Resanovich on February 28, 2012 at 2:44pm

I know how you feel. I am turning 17 this June and Josh is turning 20 in July. He wants to get married when I turn 17 if my parents agree if not we will be getting married next year. We have been together for over two years and still my family thinks its a rush and that we should wait. Even though we lived together for ten months prior to him leaving for BCT. You shouldn't worry about any one else's opinion on your guys decision. If you two really care about each other and this is something you want to do. Then do it. They will come around. 

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Permalink Reply by Brianne Wells on February 28, 2012 at 8:28pm

I got engaged the day before my 18th birthday(August 24th) and he just turned 21 on January 16th. I don't get much support from my friends but both of our families have been extremely supportive. He even did the whole ask my dad before he bought my ring and all that cute stuff. They're happy for us but they're not looking forward to me moving when he gets home from his deployment. My friends and other people my age think I'm kind of just throwing away my party years but honestly I don't think I am. We also had only been back together for about 3 days... We dated before but had been broken up for around a year. It's just a complicated and it's hard to explain but I met him when I was 15 and we had been really good friends. But honestly, if you two are happy then who cares what others think. You'll just have to prove them wrong and eventually they'll come around.

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Permalink Reply by Alexa Paige on February 28, 2012 at 8:45pm

Hearing all of this makes me feel so much better. Our parents are sort of supportive but really worried and concerned. He's turning 21 in a few weeks and I won't be 18 until the end of July so everyone thinks our age difference is going to be a huge problem. I try to stay as positive as I can knowing this is what I want and its what will make me happy but it gets hard when people are constantly telling me I'm going to ruin my life and miss out on being young. Joel is extremely defensive and takes the "either you're with me or against me" attitude when someone doesn't agree with him so I've had to be the one talking to his family and getting everything straightened out. Hopefully everyone will come around soon and realize we're doing what makes us happy.

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Permalink Reply by Natasha Scheffert on February 28, 2012 at 9:30pm

I really feel like 18 and 21 is not that big of an age difference. I mean it's not a big enough gap that you would need to worry about it. But yes you definitely find out who your true friends are when it comes to you settling down at a young age. I think we can all agree on that!

Alexa Paige said:

Hearing all of this makes me feel so much better. Our parents are sort of supportive but really worried and concerned. He's turning 21 in a few weeks and I won't be 18 until the end of July so everyone thinks our age difference is going to be a huge problem. I try to stay as positive as I can knowing this is what I want and its what will make me happy but it gets hard when people are constantly telling me I'm going to ruin my life and miss out on being young. Joel is extremely defensive and takes the "either you're with me or against me" attitude when someone doesn't agree with him so I've had to be the one talking to his family and getting everything straightened out. Hopefully everyone will come around soon and realize we're doing what makes us happy.

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Permalink Reply by Alyssa Hood on February 29, 2012 at 7:04pm

I'm a firm believer that you can fall in love fast. I was engaged when I was 17-18 with the guy before my marine but it didnt work out. And now I'm going on 19 and I'm engaged to my marine and we are talking about getting married in a year. I say just do what you love. If he makes you happy then follow your heart. Some family members are not going to be supportive, but believe in eachother. Good luck and congrats! :)

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Permalink Reply by Samantha (Horner) Girtz on March 15, 2012 at 11:23pm

I'm 18, Jordan is 19 we are getting married next month. I think it is just one of those things you know, that you can feel is right. You can feel it when they look at you. My parents aren't thrilled at all about losing their little girl & having me move to DC, but they are still supporting it. His mom is having a really bad time with it, she is currently not talking to either of us....but at the end of the day, it is about what makes you two happy. Thats all that really matters (: 

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Permalink Reply by Amy Ray on March 16, 2012 at 9:42am

Soo know where you're coming from. Josh was 19 and I was 17 when he asked me to marry him. It wasnt even a month after I turned 18 that we were married. His family took it alot better then mine. My family didn't support us at all. He was deployed too. I had to deal with my familes horrid reaction. All i can tell you is that eventually they come around. Especially if they like you. Im not sure how soon you're planning on saying your vowels but I planned my weddingin two months and in that short amount of time they came around and ended up being happy for us. Keep your chin up girl!

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Permalink Reply by Amy Ray on March 16, 2012 at 9:52am

Wow girl! You guys are really moving fast! Congrades on the engagement and the baby!
 
Corinne Miller said:

I kind of know where you're coming from. I'm 20 and my soldier is 23. We've only been together since October and we are engaged and getting married in March. We don't get much support either. We've known eachother since I was a freshman and he was a senior in High School, but we never talked or hung out or anything. We just started talking at the end of August and we just fell very hard and very fast. Also, I recently found out that I'm pregnant so things have moved very fast for us. The best advice I can give you is to just stay positive. It doesn't matter what other people think. All that matters is what you and Joel think. Just keep your head up. Everyone else will eventually come around.

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