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My boyfriend of almost two years just broke up with me. I am completely devastated and not quite sure what to do. In a few days he will be leaving for his second deployment, which makes it 10x times more difficult because now i'm going to be worried about him, and wont be getting any calls, etc to know that he is okay. I know things are rough before a deployment, and he told me he didn't think we should be together right now, and that he wasn't happy. I just don't really know what to do. This is the person who told me numerous times that he wanted to marry me. It also frustrates me that it had to come to this just because things were getting stressful. I started building my life around him the moment i said yes to taking on this relationship. I don't know if its right for me to be so angry that he did this to me after all we have been through together, and he doesnt seem like he really cares. I'm just not sure what to do, and i was just wondering if anyone had any advice :( Thanks guys <3
Keep your head up girl. Maybe he is going through a lot with the upcoming delpoyment. I would give him his space. Maybe you can keep in contact with him mom or a sibiling, to see how he is doing once he leaves on Deployment.
Thank you, I really appreciate your comment :) We ended up talking on the phone, and he told me that he felt like the distance was getting to him, and that we were fighting a lot. Which i had agreed, i felt the same way, breaking up was just not an option for me. I love him too much to just walk away from everything. The reason I was getting so frusterated was because I wasnt sure if he still cared and i told him that. He told me that he still loves me, and still cares. I guess my biggest confusion is I dont really know what I am to him right now. I asked him if we were done for good (which I really hope not, because I am so in love with him, and he is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with), he told me he wouldnt say that we are. He also said he loves when we are together, which I think is a good sign, and I told him that too. I told him that, thats how I get through being apart, because when were together it is not like this. We don't fight. I will obviously stick around, especially through this deployment, which is supposed to be a shorter one, but we all know the military has a mind of its own. I did contact his sister and told her what was going on, because I want to know that he makes it safely at his destination. Im hoping that he will still contact me when hes over there. I just feel like we have gone through so much together that its too much to throw away. His sister and his mom are really upset with whats going on as well. So I will give him space, I guess im just confused as how I should be handling myself.
Thank you! I really appreciate this. And I agree, which is why only my family, and his family know about whats going on. I really don't want my other friends opinions, because I agree that they don't understand, and that I might get some of their opinions that will only cause more stress. I have been talking to him all night, I let him text me first. He updated me on the current plans of his deployment, which makes me feel a lot better. I guess I just really need to take it one day at a time. Just really ready for this deployment to start, so that he can come home and we can see each other and work it out from there. I definitely plan on staying in touch with his family, and have been talking with his sister all day. The fact that he has been talking to me as well makes me feel better, and I am hoping that he will keep me updated with everything. I just decided that until he leaves, I wont reach out to him first, and give him the space that he needs right now. And if you ever need to talk too, im here! Thanks again, I appreciate this so much :)